Thursday, September 21, 2006
Many a times,we peeps are confused about this thing we call love.In fact,love is a force so great,there really is no stopping it.Its rather complicated,that peeps(especially teenagers,including me) do tend to be confused sometimes.Not many people can say they've truly understand what it means.
I'm not that experienced,and I'm still learning,every single day.I guess the only way to actually find out what it means,is to love,and to be loved.Possibly,thats the only way to find out what it means,and that is to experience it for yourself.However,we do have some guidelines on what it actually is.
These are just guidelines,and I believe working around these guidelines,will help everyone understand more,what it means to love,and be in love.I was browsing this youth forum,and I came across this guideline.I have 2 outlines basically.1 is this guideline that I've found on the forum,and another,is based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-8(a),which I believe is the better way to based a relationship on.
The World's Guideline to Love
Does your heart ache and break when she's/he's sad?
Do you cry for her/his pain, even when she's/he's strong?
Do her/his eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you to her/him?
Do you accept her/his faults because it's a part of who she/he is?
Are you attracted to others, but stay with her/him faithfully without regret??
Would you give her/him your heart, your life, your death??
Would you cry just at the thought of losing him/her?
Then it's LOVE.
This is what I found on the forums.No harm done in evaluating a relationship based on this guidelines.I'm not saying its right or wrong,but have you ever thought of this questions?Don't get me wrong that if a relationship you're in doesn't fulfil all these requirements,you should call for a breakup or anything,but this is to help you have a more fulfilling relationship.
Next up,is a guideline from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8(a).This is what I think is truly a proper guideline to running a relationship,though at times,it may seem almost impossible to accomplish this,but with His strength,we can do all things.A relationship based on Him,as the pillar,will indeed last.I'm still learning in this aspect as well.Before I go into details,I'll quote out the verses.
The Biblical Guidelines to Love
1 Corinthians 13:4-8(a)
Verse 4: Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
Verse 5: does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
Verse 6: does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Verse 7: bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Verse 8: Love never fails.
Basically,sometimes,we gotta work towards achieving this.In every relationship that starts out,hopefully as it goes on,it'll work towards this.You might say the 1st point is much more easier to achieve.True enough,but then,in order to obtain a good relationship,in the long term,it must be worked towards this.
I'm not saying the 1st viewpoint is wrong,but the world's point of view is just to check on whether its love or not.From the Christian context,which is the 2nd viewpoint,its more towards working a relationship and perfecting it,so to speak.I believe no one can say they have a perfect relationship,but working towards it,is what we can do.
It may be hard to some of you peeps,but it takes time.Just thought I'd share a bit on what I think. =) Oh,and by the way,the extract taken from 1 Corinthians 13 can also be used to evaluate all kinds of relationships,depending on how you see it.I'll be honest when I say,I've hardly achieved any of those aspects yet,hahaha...But thats why,I'm still learning. =P
Hope this has helped to all you peeps looking for an answer,cause as far as I see,a lot of peeps are still confused,based on my constant visits to the youth forums,which I'm also a forumer as well.Hehe...Interesting stuff.Wanna check out or join the forum?Here's the add.Have fun!
http://absoluterage.com/forum/index.php
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Message:
[ ] You have over 10 bottles of nail polish
[ ] You have a designer purse
[ ] You have something from Abercrombie
[ ] You have had fake nails
[ ] You are promised or have a car for your 17thbday
[x] You have clothes or shoes or accesories foryour pet
[x] You have at least 1 designer item of clothes
[ ] Your pet is a chiuaua, pomeranian, orsiamese
[ ] You have a barbie doll
[] A pink comforter, walls or sheets.
TOTAL: 2.
ARE YOU:
[ ] Blonde
[x] Outgoing
[x] Fun
[x] Dumb at times
[x]Near your cell phone right now
[ ] using your cell phone right now
[ ] Listening to pop or top 40 music?
[ ] Wearing makeup now?
[ ] A shopaholic?
[ ] A shoe freak?
TOTAL: 4.
DO YOU LIKE:
[x] Puppies
[x] Kitties
[ ] Makeup
[ ] Glitter
[ ] Guys
[x] Money
[ ] Pink the color
[ ] Pink the brand by Victoria's Secret
[x] Shopping
[ ] Candy
[x] Talking
[x] Laughing
[ ] Jewelery
[x] Shoes
[x] Love
[ ] Chick flicks
TOTAL: 8.
DO YOU SHOP AT/ BUY:
[ ] Hollister
[ ] Abercrombie & Fitch
[ ] American Eagle
[x] Aeropostale
[] Claire's
[ ] Express
[ ] Gucci
[ ] limited 2
[ ] libby lu
[ ] Kitson
[ ] Jimmy Choo
[ ] Armani
[ ] Juicy Couture
[ ] Sephora
[ ] Versace
[ ] Fendi
[ ] Deb
[] Target
Total: 1.
DO YOU SAY:
[] S.lut
[] W.hore
[] B.itch
[] Biotch
[x] Whatever
[x] Oh my gosh
[ ] That is so fetch
[ ] I heart you
[] Fugly
[x] That's hot
[ ] Cali
[x] Babe
[ ] Plush
[] cutie
[] Hottie
TOTAL: 4.
OTHER:
[ ] In your school picture are you wearing something pink?
[ ] Do you type like this: // && ;; ::. __
[] Have you gone to a mall in the past 3 days?
[] Do you not play sports?
[ ] Do you wear jewelry every day?
[x] Do you dye your hair?
[] do you have nail polish on right now?
[ ] Do you take all those magazine quizzeslike "Does he like you?"
[ ] Is your favorite holiday Valentine's Day?
[ ] Do you have a crush on Brad Pitt?
[x] Have you met a celebrity?
[ ] Have you ever written your first name with his last name?
TOTAL: 2.
DO YOU READ:
[] Seventeen
[] Cosmogirl
[ ] Teen people
[] Teen vogue
[ ] Teen
[ ] Justine
[ ] Prom magazines
[] Ellegirl
[ ] J-14
[ ] M
[ ] Ym
[ ] Cosmopolitn
[ ] Glamour
[] Marie Claire
[] elle
[] Vogue
[ ] Us weekly
[ ] Star
[ ] Tabloids
[ ] Gossip Girl
[ ] The clique series
[ ] The a-list series
[ ] The mates, dates series
[ ] The Georgia Nicholson Series
[ ] The it girl series
[ ] The au pairs
[ ] The hookup artist
[ ] The dating game
[ ] South Beach
[ ] Ttyl
[ ] Ttfn
[ ] The lovely bones
TOTAL: 0.
HAVE YOU SEEN:
[ ] Legally blonde
[] Legally blonde 2
[] Mean Girls
[ ] American Pie
[] Not another teen movie
[] Josie and the Pussycats
[x] Never been kissed
[ ] Aquamarine
[x] the hot chick
[] Beauty shop
[] Miss congeniality
[] Miss congeniality 2
[ ] Crazy/Beautiful
[x] Just my luck
TOTAL: 3.
DO YOU WATCH:
[x] America's next top model
[] Project runway
[ ] Next
[] My super sweet 16.
[ ] Soaps
[] Hannah Montana
[] unfabulous
[ ] Zoey 101
[x] Lizzie Mcguire
[x] desperate Housewives
[x] The simple life
[] 8th & Ocean
[] Sex & the city
[] the suite life of Zack And Cody
[x] E!'s True hollywood story
[] The real world
[x] The O.C.
[] Laguna Beach
[x] Miss Universe
[ ] Miss Indonesia
[ ] Puteri Indonesia
TOTAL: 7.
HAVE YOU BEEN TO:
[] Bali
[ ] Lombok
[ ] The Bahamas
[] New York
[x] Singapore
[ ] Italy
[] Florida
[] Las Vegas
[ ] Russia
[ ] Alaska
[ ] Paris
TOTAL: 1.
-Matt-